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Hi every bofy
As i do have only indirect contact with my childrens.last month i wrote a letter to my son and daughter but letter wasnt passed to them saying that i used inaperiorate words
And what i have written to my som the words are (i know u arent happy with me but i am trying my best to see u)In the little one,s (Is ur brother naughty with u) .looking at cafcass report i didnt do those things which their mom is doing.
I wrote these things whats the reason is behind i am contacting them from last 2 years and had no respons.My boy is 9 now he should be able to give any respons
and it had a v fair chance mom isnt passing the cards or letters to them.My question is is this that much inaperorate
that shouldnt pass to children and can she open the letter read ist and then pass it to children.Can it go against me in the final hearing.I think this is my cintact with my children.
Your help is v meaningfull to me
I think she is allowed to read the messages first to make sure there's nothing nasty in there which would affect the children's welfare
personally, i wouldn't be mentioning anything about feelings or if children are being naughty, i would keep it positive and say you miss them and talk about things you have been doing and ask how school is going or any interests they have
Hi There,
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I agree that I wouldn't talk about being naughty of and how the children are feeling about you and the situation, I would talk more around asking what the children enjoy, and telling them what you enjoy.
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GTTS
thnks for the advice .Actully i heard that children are missing me a lot so thats why ist time in last 2 years i couldnt controll my emotions..The main prblm is if she raised it to court then what are the chances are
Still i have viewd a statement although this stayment is regarding financial reloef where she told my son is taking some mental health issues for which i didnt know.
so can some one help me what shall i do if she raises this in the court.
thns v much for ur kind advice
i cant see what she could raise, just address the court that you had a genuine concern for the welfare of your children in them not being able to see you
cant help much more because do not know the details of your specific case
thnx for the last advice
i got something in defence as she mentioned in financial relief priceedings about chikderns mental health but her solicitor today sent an email and stated that they are making that letter as part of bundle .i answred him that you are taking advantage as i am self litigant and its true in his previous email which was 2 weeks ago he just provided me the bundle index and case summary nothing elsr.please help as i am v anxious now
thnx
Unfortunately they are within their rights to provide you with the index only. The court bundle is just a folder that contains all the court paperwork, such as application forms, statements, etc...Im not sure if they are allowed to include letters though. If you do a search for court bundle, you should find th practice direction concerning what can and can't be put in a bundle.
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