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Hi,
So I’ve been separated from my ex about 2 and half years now and have 7 yo twins.
For about the first year and half I had the kids every weekend and a day in the week.
For the last year we had a new agreement of 8 weekends and then 1 while still having the day in the week.
I’m at a point now where with work and kids I don’t feel I have that right healthy balance. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids to death but working sometimes 10 hours a day and then having them all weekend with no restbite becomes extremely tiring.
I’ve notice it within myself more and more lately I’ve become too tetchy and snap too easily because of how tired I am. Also when they wanna go out and do something or even in the house and I just don’t have the energy. And I don’t like that. I want to be happy when they’re here and for us to have fun. Not angry and tired.
I’m thinking of speaking with my ex to maybe possibly alter the arrangement to maybe something like a 4 and 1 maybe 5 and 1 with the day during week still there.
Does this seem reasonable? Or does this come across as me shunning my responsibilities to my kids?
I am also in a relationship (about year and half) which is now also feeing the strain of constant work / kids / tirednes.
Thanks for any advice.
Does your new partner get on with your two kids? Would she be happy to take them to the park or a play area without you for a couple of hours so you can get a bit of rest or time to yourself? Or how about any other family, grandparents, Aunties and uncles? I am sure they wouldnt mind helping out every so often if you need them to?
hi bob,
yes i can imagine it must be tiring. what most dads get from going to court is spend every other weekend with the kids. is that something you would like? 1 weekend on, 1 weekend off. you could ask your ex if she would be interested.
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