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Hi everyone.
I’m new to the site as I’ve only just found it because I am desperate to find a solution with my son who is 28.
He has recently split from his partner and they have 2 kids aged 6 years and the other is 16 months.
the problem is they are both really lazy, terribly lacking in organisation, they both smoke cannabis. They are both really angry people and it’s affecting me so badly. I suffer from PTSD from my service in the Falklands war and am taking antidepressants to help cope.
I have my son living with me and I am registered with job seeking agency to try and find him a job, I am registered with housing agencies trying to find a house for him and have said I will pay the first six months rent up front and be a guarantor for the length of the lease. I am giving him so much money it’s ridiculous but the problem is I can’t see him go without.
I actually think he has been suffering from depression for many years now but I don’t know where to turn or what to do.
sorry for the long note but any advice on where I should go or talk to would be really appreciated.
thanks for reading and I hope you all get the help and support you need during your own difficult times.
hi,
for yourself I would suggest contacting SSAFA, support for armed forces: tel: 0800 260 6767
https://www.ssafa.org.uk/get-help/mental-wellbeing
you can also book GP appointments for yourself and your son and seek support from them.
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