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Hi guys !
Looking for advice I've always lived alone living the bachelor pad lifestyle even when I was in relationship and had a baby it was a conscious choice to continue living separately and paying my then girlfriend child support (LAT couple)
When we seperated I started every other weekend ,now let me tell you when you have 12 days off to your self your personal life gathers momentum and you get used to the comfort plus piece and quiet i love having my son over but the smallest things make me mentally tired please see below my findings so far this weekend!
Son keeps losing his dummy forcing me to keep get up and searching everywhere,bending down etc.
Son keeps putting his shoes on the wrong foot,This mentally tires me
Every time I go to sit down son keeps asking for small things like juice or losing his dummy again.
He follows me everytime I get up wich is mentally tiring e.g I went all the way down the stairs to take washing out the dryer so he walked slowly all the way down the stairs only to come all the way back up.
My question is are babys for introverts and are they any introverts here who get mentally fried around kids lol
Welcome to the joys of parenthood! At least with the dummy thing, you can get a dummy clip that attaches to the dummy and fastens onto his top, so if it falls out of his mouth it just remains dangling but accessible.
I'm not sure I agree with the problem being mental tiredness, it sounds more like a bit of laziness to me! Lol.
Once a fortnight, a couple of days of "mental tiredness" is a small price to pay for having your son in your life, before you know it he will be putting his shoes on the right feet and getting his own juice... and will be too busy playing on his iPad to bother following you around!
Cherish these moments and the fact that your child needs you. As Mojo says, it won't be two minutes until he is stuck in an ipad and not wanting to interact with you.
It's fab that you have regular contact. Think of all the positives that go with that. Toddlers are hard work but they are such a source of wonder, amazement and discovery at that age. Like I said - cherish it, don't moan about it 🙂
Hi There,
Most fathers long to spend time with their children, whether they are separated from the mother or live with them, and lots of dads don't get the chance to spend weekends with their children.
Having to find a dummy, put shoes on the correct feet and have him follow you is a small price to pay for being able to spend time with your son while he is at this stage in life.
Instead of making it a chore, include him in finding the dummy, make a game of getting the shoes right and get him carrying the washing.
there is a strong chance that if you don't embrace this time you will regret it later on when he is older and isn't interested in coming to see you becuase you haven't spent time at this stage getting to know him and bonding with him.
There is no getting away from the fact that young children are hard work, I have a four month old, I can come home from work tired and grumpy, but all I want to do is see him and spend time with him, he cries and won't always settle but soothing him is all part of the bonding.
If you don't have the enthusiasm to spend time with your son and help him to grow, then there is a strong chance that he won't want to come and see you, he is showing signs at the moment that he wants to be with you as he follows you around, how long before he doesn't and you are posting asking how to get your son to interact with you?
This will sound harsh, but if you are going to have your son come and stay then you need to step up and spend quality time with him and tend to what he needs, treating it like a chore will only drive a wedge between you, and in later life this will could turn around and bite you.
GTTS
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