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🙁 hi i really dont no about this situation, and need to no the scnaros involved here, what happends if court says no contact,is that it no more seeing your child, like he or shes never exsisted, i no its not very positive thinking but , id like to no if this is possibel, at all and how why would a judge recomend this action, i guess im just worrid thats how it is at the min, thanks 🙁 how do you forget the most inportant thing in your life, christmas birthdays ect, its going to be impossibel to do that
Hello there
I've just read your post and it stood out to me as something I've thought about with what I'm going through.
I haven't seen my children for 1 year today (6-3-2016) and I'm currently going through the court process after having my first hearing on Wednesday
Not being able to see them is something that is a possibility, I have to be able to accept that to some extent, or I wouldn't have had the strength to start with the process.
I personally think it's unlikely, but when you go through the courts is something that I'd say you worry about.
At the end of the day you may in some cases be going against your ex who does not want you to have any contact with your child or children.
It may sound strange to some, but I have had to prepare myself for that possibility- otherwise I wouldn't of been able to start the process of applying for access.
I've had to have some strength and build myself up, and to think of a scenario where I may not see them until they are old enough to want to on their own. I've also worried about not just the fact I may not get contact- but how will things be afterwards?
My eldest will be effected the most, will he be influenced by his mother?
I got to the stage after Xmas and I had got a lot of emotions out of the way where I thought, I'm going to go for this. I have nothing to loose, and I have to try.
I it did come to me not being able to see them, I think it will really hurt, although I will push myself to have to get on with my life.
It really is a horrible situation to be in, this is the biggest test life has put on me, although I will keep positive.
I wish you all the best with your situation
Jonathan
A court will usually order contact when it is safe to do so. No contact or indirect contact are only ordered in exceptional circumstances.
Some people have to start off in a contact centre before they progress to unsupervised, but whatever you're offered initially, take it and try to build from there. If a court decides no contact or indirect contact - depending on the reasons and points of law, there is a right to appeal.
Good luck
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