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Hi,
I filed an enforcement order 3 weeks ago and it is currently with the district judge.
The mother is refusing to bring my daughter to the centre due to conflct between myself and her family. If the judge decides to not enforce the order and in the worst case scenario says i brought it up on myself what do i do then??.. People have said i will have to start from scratch with a C100 and apply for contact all over again, but what then happens to the order i already have in place?? does the existing order ive had for 18 months become invalid if my enforcement hearing fails and the respondent keeps choosing to not bring my daughter to the centre??
There has been no violence and no threats towards my daughter and the respondent, and there is no reason in the eyes of the law i will be stopped seeing my child, its just silly bickering and arguing and i agree im an [censored] at times as i hate being ordered around and being told what to do.
The judge can make a new order based on what happens during the enforcement hearing, that would supersede the existing order. Not to say that will definitely happen, but they can do this.
Personally I would put yourself a statement together to show how sorry you are and start toeing the line and accept you have a court order for contact....hopefully you will be allowed to stick to it!
thanks yoda.
Hi There,
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I agree with Yoda, I would imagine that the judge would discuss what has happened and ask you to explain what happened and why, you will have a chance to talk about why you reacted the way you did, ensure you show remource and that it was down to emotions over seeing your daughter and that it won't happen again, t(and you need to ensure it doesn't) talk about what's best for your daughter rather than what's best for you or your ex.
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GTTS
ye sure i appreciate the feedback.
i would like to ask you both though, when you say "make sure it doesnt happen again", do judges take petty bickering between parents serious, i know its not great for the child but surly they wont stop me seeing my daughter because of arguing between ourselves??
Hi There,
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I don't think they would stop you from seeing your daughter for bickering but it really isn't great for your daughter to see such issues between you and your ex and that's what the judge would be concerned with, the judge isn't concerned with what suits you or your ex, only with what is best for your daughter.
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It may be hard to have to deal with your ex, it always is, but sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture and just bite your tongue.
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GTTS
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