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Hi everyone.. So today was the final day of my fact finding hearing. 44 aleggations against me. The judge went through all of them. I thought I had no chance.. UNTIL, the judge asked my ex to stand. She did, the judge told her shes an unreasonable and unreliable witness and a liar in her court. Every single one of the allegations were struck off. The non molestation order against me, removed immediately, then the judge said to me, I've read your statement of application for a prohibited steps order. In one second she granted it and added a penal notice attached.. She told her if she even attempted to take the children out of the UK, without telling me And applying to court she will be arrested. I have been given immediate access to my children.. I haven't seen my children in 7 months. I was given free unsupervised access. My wonderful Barrister, spoke with me and said do it in a contact centre, to establish the relationship again. The judge said a great idea, and thanked me for being child focused.. The judge even said she wants it on the order that all the allegations are dismissed and that a contact centre to see my children, in no way means I'm a risk. My ex was completely, completely shot down by rhe judge. All her lies and witnesses lies against me, were in the judges words "you Mrs Devo are an unreliable witness and a liar in my court. If you attempt to disrupt Mr Devo contact with the children, you will be arrested for contempt of my court!!! Wow, I actually won the case. Thanks guys, and all those still struggling, keep it going, DON'T GIVE UP..
that's very positive news
I'm very happy for you man
OH WOW!!! That is fantastic news, I am so so pleased for you. Your kids will be thrilled too!! I hope it is all going to be easy going forward and she doesn't try anything stupid. Just always keep in mind, do not react badly if she does. Go straight to solicitor or the court.
All in all, what more could you ask for. I am sorry you had to go through all of this to see your kids. But you have done so well and come so far. I know you have been really down in the past, but you have done whats right for your kids and you fought for them like any decent dad would. Great news, have a good weekend celebrating, get your kids some gifts and enjoy them. Well done,
Hello Devo,
Absolutely fantastic news! I'm so pleased for you.
Brilliant news. It's always great to hear such a positive result. The Judge I had in my court case years ago - while not as direct as yours (my son's mum was not as vindictive as your ex) - overrode all the obstacles she'd put in the way very politely but firmly and awarded what I was asking for.
Your Judge sounds super! Let's hope this brand of Judge is on the increase.
Well done, and enjoy rebuilding your relationship with your kids.
oh, wow - that's not just a win, that's overwhelming. Hopefully, this will give encouragement to other dads who are up against the odds, it can be done. I cannot begin to imagine what you must have felt coming out of court - come back on here and tell us about your first meeting with your kids after so long 🙂 🙂
excellent news devo! just a shame this nonsense took so long to sort out. i wonder if they would write power of arrest in the court order.
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