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Hi guys,
I have been victim of domestic violence. My wife threatened me, kicked me, locked me in the house, trapped me and child in a room, push & kicked me while holding our child, wrestled her out of my hand on stairs. ignore our child painful crying, etc. I recorded all these actions on our last incident. police report was logged as she made a false allegation of domestic violence and called the police. police did nothing to me after they watched the recording and realised I was the victim and not her.
She has been doing all these even worse for last 2 years. But I dont have any proof for those (i dont walk around the house with camera).
I am worried about our daughter and I don't want to leave her unprotected. I asked for a full custody of our daughter. We have court in 2 weeks and I am still waiting to be interviewed by the Cafcass officer which is not happened yet. They asked for extension which is not granted by the court yet. I am worried ?
Any advise on custody? on Cafcass delay? please help
Daft as this sounds for a dad's site, I don't think we have much in the way of resources for men who are victims of DV, and it is more common than is generally reported. I would contact Citizens Advice as soon as possible, and I would also go back to the police and ask to speak to their Domestic Violence unit - they should have a specially trained officer who should be able to help you with this.
Thanks for advise. It's already too late. I am waiting for the court. Everybody knows about it. Police, Cafcass, Social,... I am just generally worried about our child future in the mother's hand. She would snaps and no one in the house to protect the child at home anymore.
There are several places you can go to for help if you are a man who has been a victim of domestic violence...
Pathway Project / 4men
http://www.pathway-project.co.uk/services/4-men/
Mankind Initiative
http://www.mankind.org.uk/
Safeline (counselling)
https://www.safeline.org.uk/
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