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Your friends might not be too far behind - it's amazing how one of a group having a child can make others in the group consider that perhaps now is a good time 🙂
I think it is really a strength to be happy in your own company. At the same time I would be worried if I didn't want to have some good friends also.
I don't know about you, but what I find most distressing is the fact I don't feel like I fit in any social circle. The married couples with children are intimidating since I am a single dad. The younger party goers are a total non starter for me unless I was looking for a partner which I am not.
I don't want my daughter to feel isolated when she is with me. I thought getting involved with her school might be a good idea but again that is quite intimidating because they are mostly mums and In my mind I keep thinking I don't fit in Nd I am sure that will give a bad vibe.
I don't know I am still trying to figure it all out. Best of luck for you too. I'd be interested how you get on.
Yeah thanks man... You really hit it on the head how I am feeling too. I mean in general I am able to be comfortable by myself, its just cool to have a couple of friends to chill out and relax with, go to a movie or shoot some hoops and stuff like that. I hope eventually things kinda get a little back to normal with my friends... And yeah its not like a was a hugely popular kid in high school or anything so I liked my little group haha... And really even with girls I high school I always ended up getting friend zoned. I didnt even lose my virginity until my 2nd semester of college, and it was a pretty unexpected experience itself, but I was glad it happened for more than one reason, mostly that it gave me more confidence in my current relationship,
So... Yeah... I guess I am still trying to find my "group" and where I fit in... There just aren't a lot of places for teen (well actually I guess I'm not technically gonna be a teen dad since I will be 20 when my baby is born) dads... I guess its almost expected that if a guy my age gets a girl pregnant he isnt gonna stick around... But I want to be an awesome dad. So yeah I'm just stuck in the middle... I am going through something that my friends cant relate too, young parenting seems to be focused on the moms, and now I'm not even a normal college kid anymore... Although I guess it would be impossible to know if any guys in any of my classes aredads or are expecting, but I doubt it. There is one girl in one class that is pregnant but she is gonna raise the baby herself... And... I guess its just kind weird because even not counting the pregnancy being 19 is kind of a weird age too... People expect you to be an adult but I dont totally feel like an adult yet but I dont feel like a little kid either, but heck I don't even think I have completely finished puberty yet lol.
I think it is really a strength to be happy in your own company. At the same time I would be worried if I didn't want to have some good friends also.
I don't know about you, but what I find most distressing is the fact I don't feel like I fit in any social circle. The married couples with children are intimidating since I am a single dad. The younger party goers are a total non starter for me unless I was looking for a partner which I am not.
I don't want my daughter to feel isolated when she is with me. I thought getting involved with her school might be a good idea but again that is quite intimidating because they are mostly mums and In my mind I keep thinking I don't fit in Nd I am sure that will give a bad vibe.
I don't know I am still trying to figure it all out. Best of luck for you too. I'd be interested how you get on.
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