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Hi all.
I found this site after looking for a way to fight recent involvement of cms. I have a 9 year old son that I love dearly although at the time of his mother falling pregnant with him I asked her to terminate as our relationship was at its end and it was unfair to bring a child into a broken relationship and unfair to us to have to be a part of each other's lives when the relationship was done. She couldn't go through with a termination so I accepted this and for nine years have supported her and been the best dad I can as i am to my other 2 kids. I have paid financially and take my father's role very seriously and for the past 9 years have had a fairly civil relationship with my ex. Out of the blue I get a cms letter demanding I pay her money every week which has killed the coolness between us. There has been no need for cms involvement as she always gets wherever she needs for my son and between my work and his school commitments I spend as much time with him as possible. The cms have accepted her application without question and when ive tried to explain to them I already pay and take responsibility as my son's father seriously I was abruptly brushed off and ignored like my side of the story doesn't count. How do I fight this madness and prejudice government dept.
Unfortunately, if she has opened a case with them, unless she agrees to close the case and work out a family based arrangement, you have little choice but to pay via the service. however I would state that you want to go into Direct pay, to avoid extra admin costs.
Yes I had figured my hands were tied. I just feel it is an abuse of rights not to be given even a chance to prove that I have paid maintenance for all these years and don't require cms to monitor my earnings.
She has made this application as due to my work and my son's school commitments he hasn't had his Xmas from me yet and even though 100's of presents lie here unopened waiting for him I won't have him miss school and I can't stop working.
The cms have allowed her to use them as a tool in a minor dispute and turned it into a major explosion and they shouldn't be allowed to do this. The money is irrelevant to me she gets more sometimes and also less at others but balances out around the same.
It's criminal, and I was hoping I had some legal rights to protect me from their disgraceful methods and blatant disregard for the truth of the situation.
I work hard, I pay for my kids and more. She has never worked a day in 20 years and sponges off myself and the government. A total injustice and morrally wrong system.
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