[Solved] Home stay problems

Hi there

If you move out its highly likely that you won't get back in, she has already stated that she can't (won't) be in the same house as you, do you honestly think she will meekly move out when you're back, or agree to share?

Where are the children? If they are with you are you able to put childcare arrangements in place? If you work away, that will make your continued stay in the family home difficult to maintain.

Kids are in the house with her.

But i cant afford private rent and our mortgage, so unless she comes round and she tries again to make a go of it i am at a lost.

I have been told she cant legally keep me out anyone know if this is true ?

She may be able to get an occupation order, as the children are under 18. She could resort to making allegations of domestic violence and keep you out that way. It's a bit of a minefield to be honest and I would advise you to get some proper legal advice.

I have been living in the same house as ex since we separated long long time ago despite her best efforts to make me move out. Thankfully she hasn't played any dirty tricks on me so far, but from what I read it is very tempting for them to make false allegations to get you kicked out. That was the best thing I did and my advice to you would be stay put at all costs.

Be super nice to her and kind and make sure you keep a diary of your daily life. Be careful what you write in emails and text messages as the smallest things could be used as evidence for false DV or harassment claims and as mojo says god forbid could lead to anti mollestation or occupation order.

Get legal advice now and before you do anything as mojo says,

Thanks Ami sound advice, still early days and we haven't sat down and talked yet the big question is will she turn nasty.

ok, form recent experience, stop hoping, thinking, wanting.

Kick her out and stop paying the mortgage. File for divorce as soon as possible and start the process of splitting your assets.

Put the house on the market and cut your losses.

Sound harsh? Just as you are taking advice so is she, and she will be speaking to womens aid, who will tell her much that I would prefer not to discuss, but if she wants a divorce, if she wants to seperate, take her at her word.

Seperate all ties and contact before she claims domestic violence because that really will destroy your life.

One night I was getting a full body massage from my soul mate, dreaming of the future, the next I was in a cell.

They need no proof, they will not be held accountable, it is simply a tool used to discredit you and when your locked up she will change the locks and your over.

Or, accept that you will have to find a new home, big enough to have your kids arounds. And that you will finance both homes while the courts suck you dry.

Might be best to arrange to meet with solicitors in the interim and come up with an agreement but it means nothing.

I may be wrong, and hopefully someone with more experience than me will tell you what you need to hear, but you are no longer dealing with the woman you married. Sher is gone and the quicker you realise that the quicker you will move on and build a new life !