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I split up with my girlfriend and she has become a bit of a control freak and is using my son who is 14 months against me at every opportunity. I am due to go on holiday with my parents who said they wanted to take me and my son away and I asked her for a letter giving permission and she said yes and now we are 4 weeks away she has decided to say she isnt going to give us a letter. I thnk she may also say I cant take him away as she isnt giving permission for him to go at all. Does anyone know where I stand. I have parental responsibility to and he stays with me and my parenst at least 3 nights a week
hi there,
these are rules about taking kids on holidays:
You must get the permission of everyone with parental responsibility for a child or from a court before taking the child abroad.
Taking a child abroad without permission is child abduction.
You automatically have parental responsibility if you’re the child’s mother, but you still need the permission of anyone else with parental responsibility before you take the child abroad.
You can take a child abroad for 28 days without getting permission if a child arrangement order says the child must live with you, unless a court order says you can’t.
Get permission from someone with parental responsibility
A letter from the person with parental responsibility for the child is usually enough to show you’ve got permission to take them abroad.
You might be asked for the letter at a UK or foreign border, or if there’s a dispute about taking a child abroad. The letter should include the other person’s contact details and details about the trip.
It also helps if you’ve:
evidence of your relationship with the child, eg a birth or adoption certificate
a divorce or marriage certificate, if you are a single parent but your family name is different from the child’s
https://www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad
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i would advise you to seriously consider taking the legal route. now the dispute about holidays began, if your relationship worsens with your ex, she may likely cause you trouble seeing your child in general. so getting a court order will help you. i went to court and order says both parents need to give 8 weeks notice for holidays abroad. both parents must co-operate in terms of handing passports and renewing them. etc
if you have holidays already booked and paid for, there is chance for you to make urgent court application. i am not an expert on this urgent hearing issue, but I have heard other dads take that route, especially as they will suffer financial loss from not being able to take the holiday.
just to clarify Bills answer, is this holiday in England or is it abroad (including Scotland)?
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