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Hi all, I’m new here and in desperate need of help, I have a 6 year old daughter and she is a real daddies girl. I’m due to take her on holiday on the 20th she is very very excited. I agreed the dates with her Mum back in February, the school said it was unauthorised abscence but I said I’d pay the fine. She previously was scared to get on a plane despite going on holiday previously but suddenly decided she wanted to so I agreed the dates with my ex and the excitement has been building, suddenly my ex has decided to withdraw her permission.
We share contact there is no formal agreement we have her ever other week just alternating the Wednesday so it’s not a full week. My ex has decided I shouldn’t be taking her out of school, however she knows August is my busy time, I understand that if I don’t have her permission technically it’s abduction because you have to have agreement from everyone with parental responsibility, she did previously agree so Xan I just take her?
If you just take her and she contacts Customs they won’t allow you to travel without her permission, and would stop you at passport control. If you managed to get through customs and she reported you for abduction, you may face contact being suspended on your return,
and having to go through court.
The only option you have is to make an urgent application to court for a Specific Issue Order, you’re very time limited and would need to take the application form in in person and explain that you need to get in front of a judge ASAP due to date of travel, the fact that everything is paid for, permission was suddenly rescinded and your child is excited and looking forward to her holiday. You can do this through a solicitor, or you can self represent, which is a lot less costly.
What do you think her reaction would be if you just took her? Would it put strain on your parental relationship, which might lead to her limiting the time you spend with your daughter?
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