[Solved] Hit a low

Hi There,
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It's tough going through court and there will always be low points, whats getting you down the most at the moment?
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GTTS

i feel you buddy

my cousin just died and my youngest brother just lost his boy at 20 weeks

had my fhdra monday and basically told wont see my boy over christmas and the mother is opposing parental responsibility because"il use it to control her" and "i dont pay her any maintenance" 🙁

You don't have to be defined by what the mother says about you. Let them say what they want to say, stay focused, don't allow that to get to your head and distract you from what you are going to achieve.

God i feel all this court stuff is slowly grinding me down and just everything that has happened just hope everything comes good

This is totally understandable, what you are going through is beyond incredibly stressful, and the fact you feel this way just shows you are a normal person. I appreciate this may be of little comfort right now, but nothing lasts forever, this will pass, I don't know when, but it will. You have been very strong in sticking through with it, where a lot of men would have simply taken the easy way out and abandoned their child, which you have not done, and for that you deserve a lot of respect.

You're definitely not alone - I feel exactly the same way. I've only had 3 hearings and it gets to you. If you can, distract yourself when you get the chance but try not to lose focus on the important thing, the relationship with your kids. You're doing this not just for yourself, but for them. You'll get there!

If you remember one thing and one thing only it is this…..you are not alone! There are people around you or here online anonymously who can offer support and advice.

There’s a line i heard…not sure if it’s from anywhere other than a recent Batman film….

“The night is darkest just before the dawn”

Things will get better eventually, yes they may get tougher too….it’s a full on roller-coaster is a contact dispute but have hope…stick to the truth no matter how hard and eventually it has to be seen.
I found a couple of similar forums to this a big help for advice on how to deal with the split up and then contact dispute….early 2011 i found this site….recommended by someone off another forum and i’ve been here ever since….both looking for advice and to vent off.

In recent years i’ve been able offer advice to others who are going through what i’ve been through, and experienced….that has been helpful to me to feel like i’m giving back….i may not know everything but if i’ve been through what someone is and i can give some sound advice then i feel better that i may have helped lighten their shoulders a bit.

Keep battling on….and come here to chat or vent whatever helps…..just don’t let it bottle up inside fella

“The night is darkest just before the dawn.....i promise you....the dawn is coming"

Harvey Dent - The Dark Knight (Batman)

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Be as kind to yourself as you can......it's a [censored] hard process to endure, But.....it's not forever, and its for a worthwhile cause....