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Hi,
I have an amazing son who is 20 months old who lives with his mother in London, while I live in Scotland (We are both from our respective countries and I stay back here due to work). We are married but getting a divorce and as I am sure most of you are aware, it is a time of great worry. But I just wanted to see what help is available and what I can do, so finding this site a great help!
Just wondering firstly, if anybody else has been in a similar situation living in Scotland while having to go through English law? My main worry is that until I am in a position to move back down south I will never get my son up for the weekend or to see my family. Money being the main reason that they can not go down to visit him and I just hope that I get to look after him for a while. At the moment I get the night bus down regularly and although previously on good terms with my ex and able to stay at the house at the weekends, she has now decided that I can't so will have to settle for a few hours either side of two night buses when she allows.
Any advice welcome, thanks guys!
Ross
Hi there and welcome to Dadtalk
Couple of questions for you - do you have an English lawyer? or seek advice from the Citizens advice?
Have you asked to bring your son home for a holiday? Would your ex be receptive to that idea?
Hi
Thanks for your reply. I don't have a lawyer yet due to the money involved and the fact that until recently we have been amicable and there has been no problem in me staying over with her and my son at her parents when I go down for the weekend. I have spoken to citizens advice in scotland but they have said that due to scots/english law, they wont be able to help. I am looking to make an appointment with citizens advice in england in the very near future, just need to make the arrangements and book the time off work.
I have not asked anything at the moment other than we come to an agreement that is fair yet she seems to think that by saying I am welcome to see him when I can afford to come down, that will be enough. I am hoping I will be told by somebody in the know that I am entitled to have him up here for weekends and time in the holidays. I can't speak for her, but I doubt that it would be well recieved if I was to make any such suggestions at the moment. Do you think the fact that I don't have a residence or family that I can stay with in London could be looked upon by the court as more reason he should be allowed to stay with me for time up here?
Thanks again.
hi, I Do think that if possible you have family/relatives in the london area you could stay with and have a placement set in that you come down and stay with them and that time when you are down you spend time with your son.
Wether the placement is put through social workers or court,though i dont know if it would have to go to court as im new to all this parenting.
I do really hope you get some more advice/help as it must be Terrible being that far away and not getting to see your son on regular basics.
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