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Hi all. I lost my separated dads account and been trying to find a fourm like this for a while. I'm currently going through separation with the stbx we have 2 kids and still living under the same roof. Kinda struggling with it all...the thought of what we are doing to the kids hurts me. But I need away from my cheating partner. Not much happening at the moment she happy to keep things as it is for now. BUT I'M NOT. Some advice would be very much appreciated.
Hi Jack nic
Have you thought about going to relate? They might be able to help you
There is a families need fathers meeting coming up so going to try and make that. I need some help as she has many friends advising her. She is way ahead of me and I'm just waiting for her to tell me what she is doing. I need to get a plan myself.
Hi Jack,
I would advise you to work out an arrangement with your ex, about seeing your children. how it will work and how often?
Yeah we need to talk...atm we don't talk. It's just a bad atmosphere in the house. Since we decided it was time to split we haven't spoken much about it. Only thing she has said is that she will leave. But I'm going to speak to her this week...tell her best if we just sell up split the money and move on...don't think she will like that but I will try. And yes I'm looking for every second weekend and 1 or 2 nights a week. Not sure what she will say about that but will try for that also. And money wise I'm going to suggest that we cancel the joint bank account and start paying bills another way so I can sort out my finances for my mortgage for another place....this will not go down to we'll. As I'm paying most of the house bills. She has contacted the housing so is just waiting on a house (witch she has not told me) and looked into her universal credits (again witch she has not told me about. Not sure if she is getting them already or not) it's killing me doing this to the kids but I need to as it's killing me living under the same roof with her. Sorry about this long reply.
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