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hi there....i hope you dont mind me being here, i am femael and joined to try and get information for my son Alex....he's a young soldier in the army and struggling to get access to his son.
The childs mother is refusing to allow access unless she is pressent, she has no grounded reasons for this only stating that " untill she feels that bonding has taken place "....refusing to allow my son to see his son alone even for a few hours.
Due to his job my son doesn't have regular days off and hasn't been able to see his son due to his job....can anyone please shed some light on this or give advise.
thank you so much
mireille
Hi Mireille
No problem at all with you being on here and female, you are not the first and ultimately, our aim is to help the children have the best possible contact.
Can you give us a bit more information - your grandson's age, is your son named on the birth certificate, and can you confirm that there is no contact order currently in place and that you son doesn't have a solicitor (the last one is solely so we know if we can ask the Childrens Legal Centre for advice).
thank you so much for your quick responce :o)
my grandsons age is 5mths old, yes Alex is on the birth certificate though my grandson doesn't carry his name, there is no contact order in place and no Alex has no solicitor at the moment.
thank you again
mireille
Hi Mireille
As things sound at the moment, because of your grandson's very young age, I think it needs to be small steps to increase contact. As there is some communication between your son and his ex, it's certainly worth having a go at mediation to see if there is any way to come to a solution with contact, both now and increasing in the future, and it's worth him trying to get you included into that contact so that it can continue during those periods when he's away on duty.
If mediation doesn't work, then he's looking at a contact order - have a read of yoji's "guide to representing yourself" at the top of the legal eagle section as that gives a good idea of the process involved if it does go to court,
thank you so much for your prompt reply.....I see my son's son almost every week and have him alone for at least 6hrs, I am always here for support for my son should he have Issac, but this my son's Ex feels is not exceptable feeling that my son will just leave me to deal with his son.
Anyway thank you for your suppport and suggestions.
mireille
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