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Hi
Recently joined - saying Hi to all my fellow comrades.
I have been told that as a paying parent I am entitled to deduct reasonable travelling expenses (fuel) as my ex refuses to bring my son to, or collect from, me; I have to travel 400 miles to see my son which I do at least once a week.
I am not looking to avoid my financial responsibilities, merely seeking to address my growing financial problems.
The info may be listed elsewhere on the forum and I will look, but if anybody knows (and hopefully can provide a website link) I would be most grateful.
-Les....another father being taken advantage of by an ex with her own agenda.
Hi there and welcome to the Forum.
If you have a private arrangement then you can try and negotiate with her to share the cost of the travel. Bear in mind though, if she's not happy she can open a claim through the CMS and this might see you worse off.
Thank you Jane
My ex has always flatly refused to travel, even when we lived closer together, not once to meet me since Nov 2013.
I will speak to the CMS tomorrow and ask them to do a calculation for me.
Up to now I have always paid slightly more than the CSA calculator suggested, and been forced to take her to court twice to improve access....so frustrating!
Well, if she's not being reasonable, then I would question why you should continue to pay any more than you are bound to do?
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