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I'm sorry to all of you, I didnt want to cause any concern about me. I posted earlier about just how bad I feel, and that she's stacked everything against me. I'm really, really struggling and just not able to cope any more. Like I said earlier, I'm so lost in all the statements, court orders, paperwork etc . My ex, will put everything in my way, to stop me from seeing my children. I know I should fight on, and hold my head up. But with all what she's said and done to me, I can't see I stand a chance in court. My children are missing me, confirmed by the schools, and Social Services. I know I'm weak. Yes, sadly I've become the weakest man on here. Even by some miracle, I get contact with my children, my ex will play games, delay tactics, and poison them against me. I just can't see any chink of light in my dark black tunnel.... Sorry everyone..
The positives to take are that the school and social services can confirm your children are missing you. That is obviously what they will take in to consideration, that your kids miss you and want to see you. Your ex might not like it, but the courts, CAFCASS and social services will say that it is important that your relationship continues. Your ex can play games all she likes, but she will only get away with it for so long.
Just keep telling yourself, your kids miss you and love you. They want to see you too, and you will. You just have to jump through hoops to do it. Don't do anything silly, we all have bad days were we feel like giving up. You said it yourself, your children miss you, so don't be leaving them behind.
Just use this forum to let off steam. Nobody will judge you for it.
Thank you Ferfer..
Also a lot of people’s exes are making up all sorts in court . She’ll
Have to provide evidence . Make sure you fight your comer and use anything you have , emails , texts whatever to put your position across
Hi City Dad. Thank you. I've not got a lot really. A few texts she sent to my sister, pics of bite marks on my arm, GP report of when she stabbed my finger... Thing is I just don't want to fight. I've been put in a position, where I've no choice but to. I just don't want to...
Hello Devo,
Pleased to hear from you. You are NOT weak you're exhausted. No one can feel normal in abnormal circumstances!
There is light in your dark black tunnel, I believe confirmation from the Schools and Social Services that the children are missing you is a huge step in your favour. If I remember correctly two / three of your children are of the age where the courts will take their views very seriously.
With regard to the courts, they are very experienced in seeing through the disgraceful behaviour some mothers engage in. Traumatically for the father when a mother engages in this appalling behaviour and false accusations, the courts have to investigate thoroughly for the sake of the children. Consequently leaving the father in limbo, totally puzzled and distraught by the whole process.
Can you find someone who is close to you to help with your paperwork in the next few days before you go to court?
Court is totally centred round the children, their welfare, safety and their right to have their father in their lives.
Far from being weak, it takes tremendous strength to admit you're struggling with your mental health.
Strength to fight through the appalling family court system for what you know to be for the good of your children.
If they have a mother willing to go to these lengths then they need you more than ever in their lives.
Thank you Motherofafather. Can I pm you please?
Hi Sally. Can I pm you please?
Hi Motherofafather. Can I pm you please??
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