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Just wanted to say hello to everyone. i separated from my wife and 3 kids 5 months ago after 15 years of marriage. Wife just said she needed space (i did'nt see it coming to be honest). She has a 3 bedroom council house and i walked out of the house with just my clothes. I have worked and worked to save a deposit to rent a flat.
I stayed with family until now and just moved into a 1 bedroom flat. I see my children mostly at the weekends, but miss living with them like crazy. Now i live on my own, it just feels horrible and not really sure who to turn to for advice. Any help would be grateful
Hi there and welcome to the forum.
I'm sorry you are feeling the strain of your separation, it's a tough time and only 5 months on its still relatively fresh.
It sounds like your family have been supportive, so I would definitely advise that you share your feelings with them... what about friends that you can turn to? Try and get out and find some new interests to help your transition... is there anything that you've always wanted to do but never got round to? Getting motivated can be difficult, but once you take the first tentative steps to new experiences, it will get easier and it will help you to move forward.
If you're really struggling, there's no shame in talking to your GP, maybe a short course of anti depressants or counselling get help. If you wanted to do it privately you could try Relate, they can offer help via telephone, email, or one to one counselling. Here's a link
www.relate.org.uk
Often it's easier to talk to strangers and we are here to help and support you as much as we can.
All the best
Hi
I agree with the advice from Mojo......
Being alone can be hard at the best of times, but this soon into a separation can heighten that. This time of year can be difficult too.
Definitely reach out to friends, family etc or keep posting on here.
Many of us here live alone but it does get easier......
Hi there
Firstly, thanks for advice, it certainly helps. Basically my mindset has been to work, save money and rent a property in which the kids can stay with me over the weekends (which i have achieved) and make sure i see the kids at every opportunity.
Even though my emotions have been some what all over the place, i've made sure that when i see the kids, they see Dad as normal. I have a fantastic family that are there always, so i'm very lucky in that respect.
I know it's a new start now, but it's nice to actually talk to others that are in the same or similar position as myself.
All the best, Martin
Hey Martin
Well done that sounds like an amazing achievement - i haver two wonderful children and three weeks ago my wife told me she wanted to end it. My world has been turned upside down and I'm so glad I've found somewhere i can talk to other people who are in the same situation. It's really hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel! So from where I'm standing your already bathing in that light! Wish me luck!
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