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Hi all,
New to this forum.
Joined because I have a shared custody (50/50 via court order) with a 16 years old who now thinks she can do what she wants... and manipulative ex unfortunately exploiting it.
I'd be interested to hear from others who have children of that age and how you deal with the dreaded "fine I'll go leave with mum/dad!" after an argument.
Many thanks
Hi,
At that age the courts cannot do much due to child’s age. If child says he/she not interested in seeing dad, then courts can not force her to see dad. It’s tricky, if there is claim that child has been brainwashed by a parent, then court will assume that anything that child says can not be trusted.
Thanks.
Yes I know it's tricky and there's a phase at that age when dad or mum are the uncoolest parent ever...
Yet the other parent is organising stuff on my week end without consulting me, refusing to bring her back, not returning my calls and messages so clearly there is manipulation going on...
Speaking from experience, your best option is to take a step back and let your daughter take the lead whilst still providing firm boundaries. It will change. It's a very difficult age without having to contend with this on top of it.
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