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From my experience and as like me you're not married to her....your liability is a share of the mortgage and child maintenance...that's all from my experience.
you are liable for all the bills up to the point at which you left and after that they are her responsibility, contact the utility companies and them and explain when you moved out the property and you want your name off the bills as you no longer live there.
The Mortgage is different...as you're both on the mortgage you are both liable for that equally, you can refuse to pay it all and only pay 50% from the day you left and still have a claim on any equity when it comes to be sold.
However, you will need to speak with the mortgage company to arrange to pay them and they may not accept your 50% payment, you then run the risk of her refusing to pay the other 50% and if she did that you would both default and they would then look at way to recover their money from you both.
I refused to pay my share of the mortgage when I found out she'd moved another guy in...took me another 2yrs to get them to buy me out the mortgage and the mortgage company in the mean time would not release me from the liability until they bought me out.
then there comes the "Cash for Kids" part which your ex is holding over you....you don't pay to keep a roof over her head you don't get to see your kids....I hope you got that in writing from her so you can use that in court if you end up going for child arrangements order (CAO).
Sounds like she's being give the "men haters" way on how to screw you over...claims of Domestic abuse and violence...Non-mol keeps you away from her...use the kids for cash gain....all the usual that gets dragged out regardless of if you are or not!
It's sad really that some ex's resort to these tactics, taking valuable resources from organisations who try to help the victims of DV/DA when there are people out there who need those resources but can't get them because of all these fake claims!
You hear and see too much of it for it to be coincidence.
speak with the CAB
try finding a local Families Need Fathers group, most hold monthly meetings for people to go along to and get good honest experienced based advice...don't worry...they don't go dressed as Batman or Spider-Man like the Fathers4Justice guys do/did.
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