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I need some help.
my educated powerful Dr for a wife has sent a lengthy email slandering accusations which are out of their world. She has taken him to her dads across the road because I did not reply to her email of lies. I am totally lost as what to do, as I love my son soo much. I know she is trying her upmost best to create a narrative of my personality which is not true. Her allegations are like WOW…… has anyone else been in this position….. I would really like to speak to another parent who has been in a similar position. She is creating a narrative of me which is totally untrue. Taking our son from me is killing me……
please can someone help?
Hi
Can you give us a breakdown of the allegation? How old is your son.
Lots of knowledge on here, I'm sure we will try to help..
Hi
Can you give us a breakdown of the allegations? How old is your son.
Lots of knowledge on here, I'm sure we will try to help..
been married since 2005
have a 7 year old
she had audio cameras inside the house (communal areas including hallway) 2020
accused me of hitting her ( several years ago) truth is she has actually hit me …. I even reported her to the police back 2006 and retracted the allegation because of her job and family.
says I had an abused child hood
says my mother was thief in her own business!!
it goes on and on …
mid there any way using this website……. We could direct message where I can exchange numbers and speak to another father on the phone?
I really need someone to talk too who has been married to a liar
kind regards
please
Dont rise to what shes saying Almost all of what she is accusing you of has nothing to do with your 7 year old son.
It clearly looks like someone that is showing hatred for you and is being malicious.
If you not seeing son then best to arrange mediation and make sure you dont contact your wife under any circumstances.
You should only contact her if its a one off message/call to politely attempt to arrange child contact.
Do not raise any allegation against mum as that will make matters worse and will prolong the process
Hi
I think all of our circumstances are very different. We may all feel that they're worse than anyone else's.
It is possible to DM on the website and I'm sure one of the moderators will advise on how to (click on name at the top) and also places you can get further support to speak to someone.
Families Need Father's and Only Dad's are 2 orgs I'd suggest where you can speak to someone as this forum will give general advice depending on how specific you are.
In the interim, it is important that you do not harass ex with too much contact (even to just enquire about son) and put a plan together for next steps depending on how things currently are.
Remain child focused and do not rise to the allegations.
All the best.
Its not completely clear whether you are living together or have separated. If you are separated have you been seeing your son? One option, probably the last resort, is to apply on a C100 for contact. Its a lengthy procedure and involves reports etc. You will need to try mediation first unless there is domestic abuse. You might be able to find a solicitor who will give you 30 minutes free advice. As has been said, don't harass her. If you have been a victim of domestic abuse, you might find a local organisation who will give you information and options.
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