Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
hi,
she can say she wants zero contact. but courts can decide something else. its up to you. it will be a bumpy ride. if you want the baby to be a part of your life, there is no harm in applying to courts. there have been other dads in similar situation, that didnt have a good record. they had to jump through lot of hoops and got there in the end.
Feel like an idiot ever opening up.
You should not feel like an idiot for opening up, it's just that now she feels threatened. In a way you could say you opened up to the wrong person.
I want you to seriously consider going to your GP and asking for a referral for counselling services, because reading through your posts, opening up sounds exactly like what you need.
If you don't get anywhere with the GP, consider talking to Beata at http://pegasusmenswellbeing.co.uk/about-pegasus-cornwall/ . She is very good and prices her service according to your income.
Another option when you need to talk about things is to call the samaritans on 116123 ( https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/talk-us-phone/).
Doing this will strengthen your case. You will be able to say, yes I've had these problems, and this is what I'm doing about it.
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.