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The story is too long to post so I will keep it short.
My partner who is now ex, has mental health issues and has been in hospital many times on sections. I got worried a few months a go and said that she would need to stay at her mums as she works from home and can keep her company while was at work.
Things didn’t change and after taking and getting know where with her mother I rang the mental health services to which point she then completely cut me out and has now filed for child maintenance. From a financial point of view what has been stated now puts me in a financial problem.
But what I am wanting to ask is she has denied me access to the child she won’t let me have her for over night stays. But what I am really concerned about is it is clear the my daughter is not being looked after properly. And I don’t know what I can do about this all of this has happened in the last couple of days. I’m out in the cold and don’t know what to do.
Hi,
Thats very sad. You should think about getting a court order - child arrangements order. Mental health issues will most likely play a big part in deciding who the kid should live with. C100 form.
Application will cost £215 To submit. I recommend you contact www.thepsu.org
They will sit with you and complete the form for free
Hi there
If you are worried about the safety of your child you should raise it with Social Services as a matter of urgency, more-so due to your ex’s recurring mental health problems.
You can apply to the family court for contact with your child, but you would need to try mediation first, if that failed the mediator would sign the application form for court.
All the best
Hi Mojo, I have raised it with social services and called the crisis team it was calling the crisis team that then made her push the child maintenance button. So when she gets social services on the door I expect a back lash.
hi,
so it is [censored] for tat. i have been through that nonsense. never mind what the ex does now. you should just focus on your children and how much time you want to spend with them, and take action.
Agree with Bill... getting the ball rolling will hopefully solve the issues around contact. You never know, she might agree during mediation, and there will be no need go as far as court.
Best of luck with it.
Thanks for you help I contacted thepsu But before I could get the ball rolling I get a c100 application thrown at me along with abusive c1a in total shock but I have the contact number for the solicitor thepsu recommended so I will now fight this. For all the things that have happened in the last year can’t say I am surprised she has done this. It has been just less than 12 months that she was in a mental hospital and I was sure when she came out she was not right.
You can respond to the C1a with your own, which I strongly suggest that you do... you can tell the court about her serious mental health issues and the neglect of your child on that form. If you do send one in, you must also send a copy to the other party’s solictor, or to them directly if they are unrepresented.
hi,
well you can look at the positives; she made all the effort, time and money to submit c100 so you don't have to lol. wonder if shes getting legal aid?
so in her c100, what did she state as reasons for making the application??
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