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Hi,
Need help, my 2 girls live in the Isle of Man with their mum, I have just had a phone call from my ex wife asking if her new husband can have parental responsibility for them, does this mean I loose my right or do I still have the same rights I had before. She is very devious and I know she wants to change the girls names so wondering if she is going to do it this way with him having parental responsibility, could really do with some advice.
Many Thanks
Andy
Hi there
She will need your permission before her husband can be granted PR.
You don't lose your rights but by agreeing you are giving him certain rights.
Even if you agreed to the PR request she would still need your permission to change the children's surname.
Has she given a reason why she wants him to have PR?
I would be very cautious, if she died he would have the right to keep the children as he has PR for them, agreed by you...it would certainly strengthen his case.
I would try and find out what is behind her request and think very carefully before agreeing to it.
Thank you for the reply, she said its so that he can authorise any emergency medical treatment or operations if any or my daughters needs it and if she is not on the Isle of Man. I though he didn't need PR to take them to hospital but that is what she is telling me.
I am very cautious of her and don't really know what her full intentions are, surely if he had a written letter saying he can act if emergency treatment is needed that would be enough.
Many Thanks
Andy
I agree with mojo - I would be very cautious about this, and it might be worth getting a short consultation with a solicitor about this, and also to see if there is an alternative to him having PR to authorise medical treatment. As you say, if it's a hospital admittance in an emergency, then they aren't going to worry about PR before they administer treatment, so I don't think that's a valid excuse. There may also be another way of her doing this anyway with some kind of letter of authority to her husband.
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