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No accidents! That's the first and foremost thing. Any more thoughts like that please reach out direct I'll happily talk on the phone for hours on end, doesn't even need to be about this we can put the world to rights if you want. Failing that go along to your local Andy's Man Club or talk to the Samaritans.
If you aren't married then I'm fairly certain in the end you'll keep your home, on the downside I don't think you'll be able to recover any lost money. If she presents herself to the council as homeless with children it is their duty to rehome her temporarily whilst they find suitable living arrangements long term. Make sure she knows this, you can present this to her as being helpful it doesn't have to be an argument. You're just 2 people trying to do the best for your kids, though she's going about it the wrong way by the sounds of it but you've got that common ground to be going on with. Not that you should, but offer up furniture as a sweetener if it helps maybe? Again not that you should, but anything to get her out of your life I would think is worth it.
If she isn't on the deeds then technically speaking, you are entitled to change the locks whilst she's out. I wouldn't advise it but just want to reassure you, legally speaking, I don't think you're up the creek totally without a paddle. But as others have said do speak to parents, they'll be ok i'm sure. Even if they're not the weight off your shoulders will be a massive help, you don't need them all to understand and be supportive but if just 1 person is it'll be a real life line for you. And speaking from experience, they'll all be supportive.
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