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Hi,
I've been married to my wife for 2 years and she is now pregnant. She has a daughter from a previous marriage who is 11.
She is not not from an EU country so she is currently here on a spousal visa. She has now decided that she wants her mother to come and live with us and has said that if she doesn't or I don't sign the papers for UKBA, she will leave me and go back to her country with her mum and her daughter. As you can imagine, having her mother around puts stress on our relationship because my wife seems to have stopped being a wife and a mother to just be a daughter.
I love my wife and step-daughter and I don't want them to leave but I think having her mother live with us permanently is a bad idea (things are better now with the pregnancy because it gives everyone something to focus on but the first weeks before the pregnancy when my mother in law arrived were very difficult) and I feel like my back is against the wall
Hopefully it doesn't come to this but if it did, could I stop her from leaving the UK with my child even if the baby is not born yet?
Any advice would be very appreciated
Hi there
I actually didn't think it was that easy for parents from outside of the EU to get staying visas for this country. I don't know a great deal about this area though I'm afraid.
Do you think she might just be calling your bluff?
If she chose to leave whilst pregnant I doubt that you would be able to prevent that, but once the baby arrives there are things you can do legally to try and stop that happening.
I know exactly how you feel David, because I have been through something remarkably similar, and that's only for 6 months. The strain on me was incredible and it's resulted in the very recent breakdown of my marriage. Advice is difficult - you could push it to see how far your wife is prepared to go, but I would certainly prepare for the fact that she might stick to her word. I would give the Corams Childrens Legal Centre a call - http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/
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