[Solved] Help advice needed

Hi there

It's a decision that only you can make I'm afraid.

From what you say she hasn't made the proper arrangements for your son as far as school is concerned and won't discuss what accommodation she has lined up. She hasn't discussed arrangements for contact to continue either so from that premise, if you were to apply to court for an urgent Prohibited Steps Order to stop her from moving it's likely the court would prevent her move until the circumstances could be looked at in detail to see whether the move is in your childs best interests.

Of course by taking this action, any good intent between you would be likely to deteriorate,so you have to weigh up the pros and cons and make a decision based on what is best for your son.

If you want to apply for an urgent PSO you will need form C100, to submit this to court would cost £215 but if you are on a low income or receiving benefits you may be eligible for a full or part exemption from the fee, to apply for this you would need form EX160a.

Many Dads here self represent, it is doable and we would do all we can to advise and support you should you choose this route....solicitors fees can stretch into the thousands. If you are unsure about going it alone but can't adfford a solicitor you might like to think about using a McKenzie Friend.

Best of luck

Hi

Thanks for the reply.

I feel really stuck at the moment with a decision as I really don't want to rock the boat as I say she has been fine with access, I get the feeling if I go through court the situation will worsen

But a big concern I have is the access being reduced as I won't be able to pick him up or drop him off at school.

Would I be best letting her go ahead with this and trying to get something more fixed through court at a future date if it becomes an issue, as I see it if I apply for a pso it will only be a temp measure and cause further issues and resentment

I really feel like I'm stuck between a rock and hard place.

Thanks again

I think you need to have a meeting with her to discuss future arrangements. Does she drive? Would she be happy to do some of the travelling to facilitate contact?

If you don't feel you can talk together then you might like to think about using mediation services, here's a link

www.nfm.org.uk

You may be able to reach some agreements and the mediator could draw up a memorandum of understanding, whilst not legally binding it may help to consolidate any arrangements that you can agree upon.

Best of luck

Hi There,
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As already said only you can make the decision, though if it were me, I wouldn't rock the boat, we know that legally we have rights to stop things and act uppon what may be happening, but you sometimes have to look at the bigger picture, if you get on relitely well with your ex and contact hasn't been an issue up until now, then I would'nt go for a PSO, I would though try and talk to your ex and try and get a better idea of what she has in mind for contact in the future when she does move, you may be able to ask for her to meet you half way, or maybe even bring your son too you, I know you would still have reduced time as you wouldn't be collecting from school and taking back but it would help.
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Another option is maybe you say you will collect from school on the Friday (if your able too) but ask if she could collect your son on the Sunday evening, I know you would miss out on the monday Morning and Sunday bed time but it is another option.
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