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Hi,
Im am new to the forum and just wanted to start off with saying hi to all.
My wife left me because she rediscovered being gay and took my daughter with her. She was allowing me only 2 weekends per month but has taken this away too now. She moved to an address which is unknown to me, still has my house keys and access to our shared bank account (which she has not been using).
She doesnt answer my phonecalls or emails and therefore I cant know how my daughter is. When I had my daughter last she was complaining to me about the living conditions with her mother. However I cant verify as my wife won't respond.
Can I get help through the council or should I be getting a lawyer? And how much will that cost me? All I want is for my daughter to get some time with me and for me too know how she is doing from time to time. And if the things by daughter says about her mother are true I would even try to go for full custody. Is that do-able?
Thanks!
Hi There,
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Usually your first step would be for mediation too take place, but I think I'm right in saying that as you don't know where your ex is living you can apply straight to the courts for an order to be made, the courts have a way of finding your ex, There is an additional form you need to complete for the courts to find her.
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You can represent yourself through court so won't need a solicitor, which will save you a fair bit of money, there are some topics at the top of the legal section on this forum with guides to self representation so take a look so you know what too expect.
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Full custody is possible, but that said it isn't easy to obtian unless there are very strong reasons, I would imagine if the living conditions were as your daughter has described then social services would attend too start with and your ex would probably be given some options to improve them before anything would happen.
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GTTS
There is indeed a court process to find their whereabouts and you would need the C4 Seek and Find application form. There is a court fee for submitting the form and as GTTS has said you can represent yourself if funds are tight.
It might help if you attended a Fmilies Need Fathers meeting in your area, here's a link to their website where you'll find details of meetings nationally.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
All the best
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