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Hello There
I am looking for advice on parental responsibility. I live on the isle of man and have a 4 year old daughter who i have twice a week. My Parents live in the uk and we get to see them regulary. The problem i have is i always have to take my Daughters Mum. We are not together and she onsists on coming with me. I do have parental responsibility and feel that providing that i give sufficient notice of my intentions that i should be able to take my daughter away? Does anyone know where the law stands on this? The last thing i would want is to get introuble for lets say child abduction, which she has suggested.
Thanks in advance
Hi sorry you are going through this but a non-resident parent who wishes to take their child abroad or any where on a holiday will generally have to negotiate this with the
resident parent. If contact is agreed, there is no reason why the child cannot be taken abroad during that time. However,
the resident parents often do object and may refuse to allow the child to go. In such a case, the non resident
parent will need to seek a court order permitting him or her to take the child away, basicly if the mum is saying you cant take her with out her you cant without a defined contact order, its crazy I know. Haveing a pr is important but you still have to go along with the resident parents wishes. why does she insist on her being with you, . You could try mediation . Do you have your daughter over night ?
hi there thanks for taking the time to help me out , the truth is i dont know i have my daughter minimum 2 nights over night where she stays overnight. I guess I may have to take the legal route will try mediation not sure what good it will be. She comes out with excuses like 'scared with all the press about child abduction'
also worthy of note my parents have a lovely farm house so there is lots to do and i have 2 sisters both married with a 3yr old and a 1yr old. My daughters mum comes from glasgow and her family have hardly any contact and cant really be bothered no cards presents on birthdays etc. She also has a second child whos family have no contact either. I look after him also as he see's me as his dad. Sometimes it would be nice for me just to have my daughter on her own as i have little time with work etc
Hiya, what do your family feel and think, its a bit weird, its like shes trying to play happy familys. does she still have feelings for you
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