[Solved] Hello There....

Hi, I’m new to the forum and came across it while doing an internet search looking for help and support and looking through previous posts this looks as good as anything around.
I am the father to a 15 month year old boy who has basically been in my care for the last nine months or so and have in the last few months been given Parental Responsibility for him. I currently work full time so I luckily have my parents to look after him during the day, he was put in to my care by his mother and at the recommendation of SS and it was SS who advised me to go through the court to get the PR for him due to issues that were ongoing with the mother. Contact from the mother is pretty hit and miss and can sometimes go a week or so without her even messaging me to see how he is doing etc.
That was all approved on the second court date and supervised access was granted to the mother at a specific location every fortnight on a Sunday for a few hours as following the first court case access was not allowed. It took a few weeks from the court sign off for the visit access to be arranged as the child’s mother had other things to sort out so it ended up being about 3 weeks before first access was arranged. I was given a time that he was going to be collected to from my house and lets just say from the initial time given it ended up being about 50mins after that time when she arrived.
I then received a message asking if she could see him Boxing day, I was doing it to be difficult but I advised that as the court order was in place we had to stick to that and it was her that requested that day and frequency. I then got a reply back saying that it was fine and when my son was older she would explain all this to him and he would hate me for it etc. I ignored the message as I didn’t want to get in to a slanging match over it.
I then received a message from a family member her side asking if she could see him over Christmas and have him overnight as her kids had not seen my son since around May/June. I advised at the moment I didn’t want him to go out the area as it was still early days, I wasn’t trying to stop anyone seeing and suggested meeting up in my local area (she lives outside the area) and thy could all see him but that wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t doing this to be nasty I just have my doubts that my sons’ mother wouldn’t conveniently turn up there and this family member has never even contact me to ask how he was or checked up on him since June.
The next visit was arranged for a Sunday over Christmas but I had no message arranging a time until the day of the access, again I was told a time to have him ready for which I did. I received one message about 5mins before that time saying they were running late and would be about 20mins later, then another message to say they would be there soon as held up – they arrived again about 50mins after the original time mentioned. Her new partner was there and I’m not sure if she brings him every time she collects him to intimidate me or they just can be separated. The time for access is a few hours so I gave a time I wanted him back to mine and an argument ensued between me and his mother as she wanted him for four hours and what I said(3) was not fair. As the argument escalated I stupidly saw red and tried to grab my son back – he was in his car chair and not yet in the car – I know this was to be kind STUPID of me and I completely regret my actions. Her boyfriend got involved and was grabbing, I think he had been drinking which would not have helped the matter. It was then agreed what time he would be coming back that day and we have arranged specific times going forward as she said she wanted to keep it civil for our sakes and more importantly our sons.
I received a message a few days later from a member of their family basically saying he does have another family not just mine and that they are on about going to court so gran/auntie etc can get access to him – again I have not said he cannot see them, there is just the trust issue that his mother wont conveniently turn up as there is a court order for access in place for a reason.
I got a knock on the door a few days ago(a week after last contact) and it was a policeman as he wanted to talk to me about the incident previously and that it had been raised to them but that the mother did not want to take it further. I had apparently when trying to get my son back grabbed the mother which If I did I was technically in the wrong and shouldn’t have and I appreciate it should come to this for access to a child. The policeman didn’t say this would affect anything and would not go on my record but would have to be noted down.
I’m pretty downbeat about things at the moment because it just feels like I’m trying to be caught out by their side and I don’t want to risk anything for the little man. Sorry for the ramble but I guess its sometimes better to put in front of people you aren’t going to see everyday or are always going to want to talk about it.