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Hello all, I'm new here.
A bit like the various motor vehicle forums I'm in, you never really need them and join until your having problems.
I come with questions but hopefully I can give a little back with my fairly short experience of being a full time dad to my ten year old son.
To cut a lifelong story short my son came to live with me coming up to two years ago. Events surrounding his mother caused concern to social services, the police and his school at the time.
I filed a C100 with the court and after a very short while a court order was made that stated he should reside with me and that some form of contact with his mother should be established at least twice a year and that any contact in person should be supervised.
Quite drastic you may think, she really didn't do herself any favours and I have seen no improvement in her chaotic lifestyle that led to the order being given.
I have kept to the court order, never had any problems myself with social services or the police. He has settled into his new school, everything is going as well as can be expected.
I returned home to find that she has made a C100 requesting contact/acess with him from Friday to Sunday every week.
My questions are-
Can this c100 she has filed replace the existing order?
Is there any danger that her request be accepted without a thorough investigation into her lifestyle and behaviour which led to my son coming into my care?
Many thanks
Sixtwo
hi,
so looks like you will both have to attend court because of her application. Cafcass/local social workers will probably get involved again. what do you think about her request for fri-sun every week?
I think in the end, cafcass/courts will decide what kind of contact she would be getting, especially if you don't agree to what she is asking for. whatever the outcome is, her new application will replace/vary your existing court order, but chances are your child will carry on living with you, and the difference may be the amount of contact your ex will get.
@bill337 cheers Bill.
I think I'd welcome some involvement from SS, they were very helpful in the past.
Since he came to me they have been out of the picture.
I don't see what's changed since the initial order was put in place and for that reason I don't want anything changing. Certainly don't want what she proposed.
She couldn't accept the current contact conditions and just abused it.
I hope the court see it the same way.
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