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Hello stamina9008,
Thank you for reaching out, you are not alone, there is a number of us on this forum that have been through the difficulties you are experiencing.
To get through this you need to look after yourself first, your child will need you, you are therefore very important and should not think that this is the end. Please continue to talk to us and let us know how you are feeling.
Did you manage to speak to the Samaritans? Please try, it will help.
In terms of the mother of your child - you need to remain civil, please remember our anger makes us say things that are hurtful and often not thought through. You should not allow her hurtful words to upset you. You will definitely have a better chance if you keep your cool and remain reasonable.
I am also happy to PM you to talk through this and help you think of some more ways to get through it.
Keep your head up, we are here for you.. continue to reach out..
Hi there
It's good to hear from you stamina.....I'm sorry you're at another low point, you're looking after yourself and that will be helping, even though you don't feel as if it is at the moment....it's normal for there to be setbacks along the way, you're dealing with a lot of different pressures right now and there will be times when your spirit is tested, it's good that you've come here to share how you're feeling with us, talking does help and we are here to listen and to try and support you as much as we can.
Keep talking, keeping things bottled up isn't a good idea right now so it would be great if you could post and let us know you are managing.
How are you doing today Stamina? It would be good to hear from you 🙂
Hi There,
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I mirror everything that has been said, your low point at the moment is difficult to deal with and it must feel like you are very alone, but your not, we are all here for support and to talk too.
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How are you feeling today?
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Keep in touch with us, we are all in your corner and ready to answer you.
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GTTS
Thanks everybody.
I was more proactive today, really occupied myself and killed it in the gym.
I had a blip when i last commented, and i expect i'll have others.
Its the psychological toll it takes if you let it.
Feeling better today anyway, took it on with some strength.
Sorry if it seemed a bit dramatic but i was feeling very s***!
Totally related to everything you said in your post mate.
All ive got is photos on my phone of my son, backed up with my gmail account. Sometimes i wanna look at them and other times i dont because i'll get depressed and then cos i dont, i get guilty, lol.
Anyway, we gotta stay strong mate.
Im here if u want some support at any time, and good luck with your court appearance, i hope it goes well.
Take care pete.
Morning,
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Glad to hear your more positive, we all get these down days and we are all here to support you, keep strong and shout if you need any advice or just need to sound off.
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GTTS
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