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Hello everyone, first time poster here.
As a dad who struggles pretty much daily with self-esteem and anger issues, it's great to have a forum to vent, or get advice.
Just a short blurb about me:
I have a fairly good idea of where my insecurity and anger stems from. I was raised by two very supportive parents, but was bullied extensively while growing up. I then began to bully other kids sometimes in a bid to not be the victim. To this day, I still occasionally have fantasies of going back in time and "changing the script", and turning the tables on my bullies. Not a healthy thing to dwell on much, I know.
Every day is a challenge to remember that my children are not out to make me angry or disrespect me, they are simply interacting with the world in the only way they know how. I am desperate to NOT pass on this anxiety, anger, fear, and feeling of inadequacy to my kids. I really want to be a coach to my kids, rather than a detached parent who doesn't care, or an authoritarian parent who makes demands but doesn't offer support.
Thank you for listening, I look forward to chatting with all of you.
You sound like a dad with a great amount of emotional intelligence, as well as having the ability to reflect and learn from your own experiences for the benefit of your kids.
Welcome.
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