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Darren
great news , and not something you hear very often . Congratulations and well done
I spent the best part of 15 years fighting for my kids to no avail . every case is different .
I wish i could help here too iam nearing 50 and its all history now , i only found this place because the csa started hassling me , but after reading some of the posts here from desperate dads going through similar problems my heart really goes out .
I fear though because i never really won i would be too negative with some of my thoughts . ??
Hi thats great to hear and please tell us your story and the court process as it really helps others
Kernow, if you want to rant, rant away, you must have a story 15 years is a long time, please tell
Hi thats great to hear and please tell us your story and the court process as it really helps others
Kernow, if you want to rant, rant away, you must have a story 15 years is a long time, please tell
Kernow - Sorry it didn't work out and I'm hoping that time has been a healer for you? The Court process is a harrowing ordeal, listening to complete strangers talk about your lives and your children in a cold and matter of fact way really got to me. The first thing my barrister said to me was that 'this is going to be an uphill struggle' which didn't fill me with much hope but she was brilliant in the end and I now realise she did not want to give me any false hope. What worked for me was the CAFCASS Report, where the CAFCASS Officer was quite straightforward when beng asked questions by both the Judge and the opposition Barrister and the fact was that all 3 children had said they were happy and settled where they were and wanted to stay with me. Keep everything you can use to your advantage - I kept some vile texts I received and when these were read out in Court I noticed the facial expression of the Judge and knew I had done the right thing. My ex also sent horrid messages about me to my 12 year old daughter trying to influence her and my Barrister made a big thing of this as I, quite rightly, monitor my daughters texts and e-mails. The process is sterile and painful but I have to admit is has restored my faith in the judicial system and I still can't believe at times that I, as a full time working father, got custody but I genuinely believe that all those involved, the Courts, CAFCASS etc genuinely want what is best for the victims of any horrible divorce - the children,
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