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Hi everyone who might read this
An hour ago I found this site and forum for the first time. I'd just spent a few hours googling online, looking for 'help', really just looking for someone, anyone who might have voiced anything similar to what I've gone through, am going through. I do an online search frequently, always the same desperate seeking. Today's search was because I'd said goodbye to my young son after taking him to school. 'Do fathers matter?' Does anyone care?' 'How to live with this Pain?' These are the searches I type online, so I was glad to come across the site, but in all honesty as much good as it did knowing I'm not alone, reading the stories just confirmed all I've had to endure, and all I fear about the future and the manner in which my life is controlled by my ex through being 'drip-fed' my time with my son. Sorry to make such a gloomy intro on here, but on any day when I part with my child it is hard to function, I'm about to start work in 30 minutes where I have to pretend that 'I#m coping', that 'its all normal' (as my son is constantly told by others who are his life now), is being in constant pain normal - perhaps? Is being in constant pain solely caused by other person normal - and why does society at large justify it? there are a lot of questions always going round in my mind, like a lot of people all we can do is go online in search of answers, and in lieu of any real answers I guess we are just hoping to find some degree of solidarity out there, somewhere 🙂
G.
Hi and welcome
You certainly aren't alone in your plight, so there is solidarity in numbers, but there is still hope - some of the stories you may have come across on here do have positive outcomes, so it's worth telling us where you are up to and what you have already achieved (or tried to) so we can see what else you might be able to do.
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