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hi if im honest i wish i never had to join this forum, but im glad i found it so big hello to all,anyway i guess i just want someone to tell me things will be alright,i will keep it as brief as poss, i separated from my ex a year ago, things were not good and she wanted me to leave so i did i had to move in with my mum this was last september, anyway i had contact with my 8yo daughter and 17yo step son obviously only when it suited her,but she started getting funny last march which iv sinced learned is when her new fella came on the scene,so she obviously wanted me out the picture and started telling me they were busy at the weekends when i wanted to see my daughter.when i next went round to the house we had a big row which led to pushing and shoving and the police being called,i was now being charged with common asault in fact iv just been covicted of common assault and am awaiting sentencing.now i have not seen my daughter since this incident in march and it hurts me deeply as we last hugged whilst i was sat in a police car,only a couple of weeks before the incident i had bought my daughter a childs mobile phone so we could call and text as prior to that i had to go through my ex which was difficult to say the least,iv sinced learned through my step son that she took that phone away so i now have had no contact since that day.now im currently unemployed and have legal aid solicitors helping with the matter,i dont think their doing a great job but beggars cant be choosers,and the last time we spoke she said my ex said that my daughter has now said she does not want to see me which i just dont believe as we were very close.we are now going for a contact order so can anyone just please tell me roughly how long/what this will involve and that i will get to see my daughter soon because iv never experienced as much sadness and depression as this is causing.also why do women turn like this i never ran off with a younger model she wanted me out so i left we was together 15 years! and even my family are shocked at how shes behaving, i also miss my dog but the solicitor thought that was funny.
Hi and welcome,
I think you know already that the pushing shoving incident will have impacted you seeing your daughter, I would imagine that when you go to court for contact that the judge may put an interim order in place for you to see her but that this may be supervised at a contact Centre, it won't be ideal but you will hopefully get to see her
You may also manage to get some indirect contact through phone or letters.
Darren
thanks Darren, i realise i messed up that day and looking back feel i walked right into that one,i just want to add i am not a wife beater but snapped that day and have beat myself up since i honestly could not care if they send me to prison my only concern is the affect this will have on me seeing my lovely little girl,as rgds to sending letters iv sent some but my step son said they have not been recieved nor were the easter cards from me and my family and as i mentioned she took the mobile i got her away so i cant call,my step son also said my daughter made me a fathers card and got me a present which has just sat on the side so iv no doubt that selfish [censored] of an ex wants to destroy our relationship.its the small things that are killing me like the thought of some one else raising the saddle on her bike,and im expected to sit back powerless.
I didn't feel for one second you were a wife beater, it's one off things though that impact the future, you made a mistake and have to live with the outcome.
Being removed from your daughters life isn't fair though and I'm sure you will get to see her once you get to court, as said this is likely to be supervised to start with as I'm sure your ex will make a big thing of what happened.
I'm sure your daughter loves you and knows you feel the same or she wouldn't have made you a fathers Day card otherwise.
Stay strong and feel free to sound off or talk through emotions.
Darren
Thanks Darren iv a feeling this forum is gonna be a big help going through this, just a shame that such a place exists for loving fathers.
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