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Hello all,
I'm just wondering if anyone thinks the health visitor and midwife would tell my ex not to put me on the birth certificate due to safe guarding concerns, both have never spoken to me.
My ex is getting very angry about this repeatly saying all have said that we are not equal and she needs to control the access I have with our son, I've told her that I will have to apply to court if we do not sign together which again angers her as it's 'not in the best interests of the child'
Thanks
Jon
Hi there
I don't think they would do that to be honest, they're professionals, I can't see them saying fathers aren't equal either, that's an outdated notion and these days fathers have a much more hand on role caring for their children.
This sounds more like your ex trying to maintain absolute control, however I wouldn't pressure her too much as she may just take an injunction out on you, which would make getting contact more difficult.
If she refuses to put you on the birth certificate, you have the option of applying to court for parental responsibility and a Child Arrangements Order.
There's lots of info about the process in the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section, but if you have any specific questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
All the best
I don't think they would do that to be honest, they're professionals,
When my son was born and me and his mom were on good terms, we had a health visitor come around. I was working from home that day so I got to meet her too. At some point, I ran upstairs to pick up a thermometer to take the baby's temperature. Later after the health visitor left, my ex told me that while I was upstairs, the health visitor had asked her if I had become violent towards her. The health visitor suggested to my ex that men become "violent" after their partners have babies. She did this based on absolutely nothing which was disappointing, and I couldn't help feeling discriminated against, but we just carry on.
Jmax, don't let that story discourage you. We need to calmly keep showing that these stereotypes are wrong. Sounds like you are in for a ride with regards to being your son't father. You're not alone.
That's awful superprouddad! I would say that's the exception rather than the rule though, most professionals are professional...but it only take one!
she sounds excactly my ex...so controlling that i was never allowed to take my son out alone!!
just file the c1 form for parental responsibily and make sure you send it with 2 copies to the local family court for where the child lives
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