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My ex who looks after my 5 year old is self employed like me, so we don't get holiday pay. She has decided to take herself on holiday in term time so she can afford it and expects me to take a week off work to ferry my daughter to school and pick her up each day. (I have a 2 hour commute each way to work and home working isn't possible).. That means I will have to take an unpaid week off while she goes on holiday. I on the other hand save my holidays for her school holidays so at least I can spend quality time with my daughter and can go away with her.
This seems a bit selfish to me, and am I within my rights to reduce Child Maintenance by 25% for that month to make up for it? I already play over the odds.
Be interested to hear your views.
Cheers all.
If the payment is through the CMS then I'm not sure that you could do that, but if you pay over the odds, you could certainly reduce it to the calculated amount.
If your arrangement is between yourselves, then you can negotiate a reduced amount to compensate for the extra time she will be with you.
Have you tried talking to her about it? That might be an idea... Good luck with it anyway.
I would say the same as Mojo regarding the amounts if you're paying over the odds outside CMS.
Morally, if either of you want to have a holiday with or without your child, it's not the other's business really. If this has meant you're getting extra time with your daughter, surely that's a bonus?
Just as a suggestion, could your daughter stay at a friends during this week, and in return you have your daughter and friend to stay during the school holiday (would allow the friends parents to have a week away on their own)?
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