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Hi everyone right were do i start. I was married for 20 years and been with my ex wife for 23 years we got together just after we left school we got 4 lovely kids together age 21 , 19,14 & 10 after we split for the second time in 3 years everything seemed ok my ex wife was talk to me and i got to see my kids every week but i was feeling really low within myself because i didn't want to be away from the woman i loved and my kids but after 4 months of feeling like [censored] i start going out with new friends and meet this girl and we got on and then we decided that we will go out a couple of times for drinks but then i found out her daughter was i the same class at school as my 10 year old boy i didn't know what to do at the time so i decided to go out again and i start to like this girl because she made me laugh and made me feel good and i enjoyed her company so we both decided to give this a relationship ago but with in the first month being 2gether she fall pregnant and soon as my ex wife found out who she was and being pregnant the kids all of a sudden stop seeing and my ex didn't want to take to me as well but after 4 months of being let down by my kids and my ex moaning and give me grief it took a tool on my new relationship and now we have split up over a big argument with her because my new girlfriend seem to be in a comptition with my ex and it was getting to me plus i was feeling low about not seeing my kids but soon as i broke up with my new GF my ex wife treid to be friends with me again but also my new girlfriend wents me back plus she is also having carrying are baby but i fear if i go back to her my kids will stop seeing me again and i will get grief of my ex wife please can someone help me. did i jump into another relationship to soon and is it all my fault like my ex wife said it was thats why the kids stop seeing me
Hi there
Sorry to hear about your quandry, it must be very difficult. It might have been too soon for a new relationship but that's not for anyone to judge you on but, from your kids point of view, it's probably quite difficult having a connection via there classmates but they are old enough for you to talk to them about it and try to find a way to move forward.
Children are very easily influenced by either of the parents but I would suggest you could start by trying to talk with your ex wife and children, possibly separately at first and also with your current gf. It's not a case of laying blame here, you already have children with whom you need to make things okay with, but you also have a new child on the way who you will need to consider. Try to start by talking, if your ex has tried to be friends, that's a start for now and see where you go from there?
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