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hi people, ok ive been in court for seems like ages, but nearly a year a long drawn out job, i had have lotsa alligations against me, im self repping as i think its best, ive had a dnd done to prove i am infact the dad, as the ex hates me with passion, ever since shee got the c100 to court letters, i surpose any way she dose not want to see me at all i had caution from police saying keep away from her and my our baby, hence no contact for one year, and ive found myself, in a contact center, now heres the thing, for all you guys out there, that are having a hard time and i do no how hard and painfull it all is, the contact center is ok its not at all bad, as you get to see your son daughter but this dont last for ever, but then a question that keeps coming to my mind is what next????? ive not got pr,, and hoping to get that has anybody on here had the same situation going on, and how did things turn out for you as if the ex hates you and dose not want you as dad then it will only harm hurt the child at some time,, it was amazing to see my littel one tho ,, one of the best days of my life,, even if at a center,,,
Generally, contact centres are a short term solution, once the courts have found no risks to the child they will want to progress contact outside of the centre. This can be in stages and is dependent on the age of the child, how far away you live... That kind of thing.
The strength of the judge is also a factor, if you have a good judge they will want to see a good level of contact and will not be swayed by the hostility of the mother....but unfortunately there are still cases where implacable hostility/child alienation will see the father further estranged from his children, instead of the mother being dealt with.
The contact centre can be used for handovers only, though you are restricted then to the times they are open.
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