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My son ,s beatiful daughter will be two at the end of the month and yet again ex girlfriend will not allow us to see her on her birthday and refuses put my son on the birth certificate , My son does have her twice a week over night , but we all feel that at any time she will stop us seeing her as she as done this many time,s before What can we do , all contact with the mother is with me has she will not speak to him and we have been very resonable with changing days and times when the mother ask .But when things don!t go her way she stops us seeing the daughter . She is in another relationship and pregnant I reallly don!t understand why ?
Hi There,
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I have just had a quick read through your earlier posts,
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How far have you gotten with ediation, did you follow this through or did the mother just give in and allow contact again?
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Either way I would suggest mediation as a start, during the sessions, your son can discuss birth cert and getting this changed to his name and also try for some extra extended time with his daughter including over nights, if his ex won't agree or won't attend mediation, then he can apply to the family courts who would then resolve the birth cert and help him gain better contact with a written order.
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GTTS
The mother changed her mind and gave my son contact with his daughter . Everytime I mention the birth certificate she refuses to comply . so we then just go along with that because if we challenge her she stops us all seeing our beatiful girl , also she is cutting our time with our beatiful girl which is very difficult for my son and us to handle
If she continues to chop and change I would advise trying mediation, it doesn't have to lead to court and sometimes it's enough to show the mother that you,mean business. Your son could try and introduce a parenting plan that he and his ex could work on together to try and reach agreement on all aspects of co parenting. There's a sticky about CAFCASSParenting p,and in the sticky situation at the top of the legal eagle section, with a template that can be printed off.
How do wè contact mediation in our local area .Yes I think this is the way forward , but I known this will stop us seeing our grandaugter .
Here's a link
www.nfm.org.uk
You should be able to find mediators in your area on that website. Some solicitors also offer a mediation service, but I would shop around to get the best deal. If your son is on benefits or a low income he may be entitled to legal aid funding to cover the cost of mediation.
Thank you very much
I second the advice from Mojo. If mediation isn't successful, a court application would be relatively straightforward in this scenario as the mother is allowing contact, she's just picking and choosing what she will and won't allow.
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