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Quick question I have shared custody of my child, just wanted to know if I can enforce the order so the grandparents can not get involved with regards to telling myself about dates that I can see my child as it's getting too the point where they are involved and email myself about the dates in half term , they control my x and it's always them not my x contacting me when she is capable of doing this herself
If they aren't named in the order, then I can't see that they should have any involvement. I would have thought that you would need to have a discussion to ask them to stop this.
You can only enforce an order if the conditions are breached, does the order specify that the grandparents shouldn't be involved in the handover process? If not then you can apply for enforcement. You can however apply for a Specific Issue Order, although youwill need to have attempted mediation first, to try and resolve this issue.
Is there a reason why you're not happy for them to be involved? Is there a history of bad blood between you, are they obstructive or hostile towards you... it would be advisable to have a clear reason why you would like them to be excluded from making arrangements, just not liking them or because you think they are controlling your ex, might come across as unreasonable.
Yea very hostile tiwards ne, bad blood indded, am nit haooy fir them to be involved as they make there own minds uo about holidays etc i have shared custody and i always have to ask fir dates etc its like they are dictating tiwards me,
They are aways telling me when i can have my child and when nit even though its equal between us.
The judge ordered that if the person was in wirk they need to work around it for me to meet and its nit happened its always them making decisions about dates for holidays.
But even if i get a specific issue order, they can still do it as they wont know i wont know as the email will just come from the x email nit theres
If the order isn't being adhered to then you can apply for enforcement, it might be better to have the order much more defined, so that contact dates and times are actually specified in the order.
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