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Got the message of my ex this morning "good morning I don't have a problem with you seeing the kids" out of no where no explanation of what changed her mind it's like everything's back to normal she added my on Facebook started sharing baby pics.
Why do mothers change there mind so often it causes mayhem and stress between the 2 grandmother's of my baby and it's so awkward if I'm at a family gathering and family members are asking why my son isn't there .
What do I do now try be her best friend for sake of my son and not missing bdays and other special days,last time we broke up we continued doing family outings and chilling in my home etc I used to take contact with my children for granted untill we had a bust up and couldn't see them ,c100 was filled out and was going to post tomorow but now that pressure of and I've saved 215 quid
Hi There,
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I think you have 2 options here, you could still apply to the courts as you have gotten this far and are ready, you could explain to your ex that you want to get something in writting so that you both know where you stand and everything is covered so that there won't be any issues going forward, or you could give her some trust and take the offer she is giving.
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The risk with the latter is that it isn't uncommon for there to be back down just before court or the papers are sent in for court, we see this a lot, ex's will back down at the last min as they know they don't really have a strong case and want to avoid the court order, this still gives them the level of control they are trying to hold onto. Then further down the line the issues start again.
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If you want to give her the benifit and trust her, make syre you keep everything you have discussing thinsg, so all txt, emails ect, as if you need to prove the issues this time around then they will help.
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GTTS
I'm going to trust her 1 more time it's good of you can get on the the sake of things being relaxed and flexible problem with a court order is if I'm given every other weekend then that's litrally it but as things are now I see them as long as she's in without set times wich is great as my shifts are diffrent every single day with diffrent days off work
Hi There,
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If you can trust her it would be the better way as you say, as it gives better flexibility and less stress.
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Good luck and keep us posted.
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GTTS
That's great, hope it works out for you. Working shifts always makes contact more complex....it takes flexibility from both parents, so working together amicably is all the more important.
All the best
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