[Solved] Final Hearing Date

Hi guys

Follow on from my previous posts, my partner has received the date for the final hearing 27 July!!!

As per the Judges's comments at the hearing last week that contact should happen sooner rather than later and the efforts the parties made would be taken into consideration, my Partner text the Mother and asked if she would make the child available for some contact over this weekend in her home town. He received a letter from her solicitor saying that the Mother had shown the child his text and he did not wish to see his Father. So my partner text her and asked if she would be willing to meet up to discuss a way forward for Father & Son to have a relationship. She ignored it.

Statements are to be submitted by 14 April. The judge indicated that what is to be decided are the frequency and duration of contact including overnight contact. He said the child should ring his Father once a week. This has not happened.

The judge made the following comments at the hearing:
The mother is too protective and the Judge observed that she does not have an empathetic approach.
The child probably does a lot to stay on the right side of the Mother and that he is fulfilling a role different to that of other 9 year olds.
The judge questioned whether a solution could be found in a Court Order.
The Judge thinks that the real question is whether the child will get total support from the Mother having a relationship with his Father.
There are no issues in the case which should stop direct contact. The child should spend time with his Father.
The Judge accepts that Mediation is not practical in view of the distance (Scotland / England) between Mother & Father.
The child is worried about Mum and Dad having different approaches. Mum and Dad's positions are polarised.
The judge was firmly of the view that the child does need to communicate with his Father even if Mother does not think this would be good for him. The Mother needs to be persuasive.
It is not good for the child not to have a relationship with his Father
The Statements are to look at solutions to contact to ensure the child has regular contact with his Father.
The Judge said that children cannot have it all their own way.

In view of all of the above the Mother is still hiding behind the child's "wishes and feelings" and her Solicitor said at the hearing when the Judge asked "when is contact going to take place?" the child's "wishes and feelings" have been established and he does not wish to see or speak to his Father.

My Partner will continue to ask for contact until the final hearing and will keep that as his evidence of the efforts he is making.

The Mother is clearly making no effort and not even bothered about it as she's getting away with it!

What I don't understand is she's been told by the Judge that contact will take place yet she does nothing!! She thinks because Cafcass have established the child's "wishes and feelings" which even the Judge is taking with a 'pinch of salt' that she can hide behind it (which incidentally she's done since day 1 and was proved to be nonsense when Father was granted immediate contact last year). She's not even phased by a Judge advising her to make contact happen. How is she going to talk a child around who has been lied to and had nothing but negativities instilled in him by a vile creature. Why would you deliberately put your child through that?

I don't have any doubt that my Partner will get contact and understand he needs to make sure that he gets some kind of penalties attached to the Order otherwise she's going to breach again without hesitation. We know we'll have to tip-toe around the child as everything we say or do will be reported back, twisted around and used as ammunition by that vile cretin.

We're counting down the days back to Court. Every time my Partner thinks of throwing in the towel I j :} ust remind him that Karma will happen and she'll get back what's she's dished out, that I have no doubt.

Thanks for taking the time to read.