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My final hearing is on Wednesday and I couldn't be more terrified. I have seen my two girls four times now at a contact centre and once at the in laws home. The reports from the contact centre are really positive and I am hoping that no other false allegations are bought up and this all sorted out this week.
The reports show how much my two girls love me and love playing with me. My eldest is getting confused now, she asked me if i lived at the contact centre as she didnt really understand why I have to meet them there. I explained at one of the sessions that daddies house is being fixed at the moment and it isnt ready for people to live in. I saw them on Saturday, and she asked me a few times if my house was fixed yet and when she can come and see it.
I will be pushing for 50/50 contact, as i know it is what i and our girls deserve. I honestly cannot sleep at the moment, a mixture of fear, worry, excitement and stress just keeps me up.
It's going to be stressful as there's a lot riding on this for you and your girls. Fitful sleep isn't a surprise at a time like this - I remember it all too well - feeling like there was a hurricane raging within me even though no one could see it. I was really grateful for the years of working in challenging situations as I learned how to appear calm even when I was bricking it. If you're self-repping, it's obviously very important to keep your wits and positive side about you. Just focus on your daughters and the importance of them having good relationships and shared times with both their parents.
Good luck.
Hi Ferfer...
Good luck with Wednesday mate.. I'm in Court on 15 January for the re run of the pre trial hearing, as the last one was... A complete b.... Up. Her solicitor and my ex both were late to the court by an hour and a half, then only filed witness statements and Scott schedule the night before. The judge gave them a real dressing gown.. Anyway, your having contact at least with your children, which is good. I just hope and pray, I get some interim contact with my children soon as its been 6 months of absolutely no contact with them. Also the last 3 days of January I have a 3 day fact finding hearing. Which will be horrible for us both. I never ever wanted all this. Its hard enough to look at the woman, who for 14 years my wife, I thought loved me, however I now know its all been a complete lie. She stole all the money and left me homeless. Now she's making nasty statements about my being disabled from my time in the Forces.... And on it goes. Be strong and keep it going!!! Devo....
good luck for Wednesday, Ferfer, hope you get at least an acceptable result.
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