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The ex took a oath on the bible, lied with ease.
The lawyer was not aware of the ex's allegations she put before me, I answered and when I asked for clarification the lawyer could not answer.
The judge, shot me down, changed the meaning of words on the exs allegations to suit her better, calling me a narcissist.
A narcissist who after being thrown out of the house on fake allegations non molestation order, starved only to pay bills to keep a roof over my son's head while the ex's uses our child as a weapon. I took over everything, fridge full of food, clothes, car repairs all this while the ex struggled without a job for over a year.
The judge threw my evidence out even without asking for it.
Ruled in my ex's favour.
Now I have to pay her lawyers bill. A big bill.
What is this, do they expect me to become homeless, drop dead. How much can I take. I tried, I got back from the edge but now I can't, I can't.
hi,
can you give short background to this? how did this all start? is this to do with child arrangements order?
Started almost 9 months ago, ex lost her job was pregnant, things just went down hill, I was the only earning member, mortgage, car payments, food... ex was fighting another case with her company which made tensions rise. Things got worse as I seemed to be the enemy. Ex got in touch with an independent worker, put in a non mol order occupation order, given. I had to leave the house, still paid mortgage, my rent, did find and pay child maintenance as per govt website. To court and back a few times. Child Arrangement order in place, i consented to child stays with the mother, mother gets my c1a removed stating child needs to be taken to see grandmother as it will be her last Christmas due to bad health. I agreed.
Ex send me into custody twice on nonsense charges.
Her lawyer played it well, later states I did a c1a to harass the ex, started child contact centre arrangements just last month only in time for the case.
Final hearing, ordered to give 4 points to be discussed at the last minute with questions, judge says too many cases to be looked at, if he looks into this it will end on Christmas.
Judge and lawyer I felt were working for the ex. Did not even ask of evidence nor was interested in my questions.
Verdict- controlling and coercive along with being a narcissist.
What kind of justice is this? Not even a fair trial. At the end judge says I will have to pay for ex's lawyers fees, I refused, stated another hearing for this.
Ex and lawyer laughing during breaks and tears while in the court room.
I was representing myself.
Child hearing in due time.
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