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Feeling like a bad father

 
(@marksmith89)
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Hello, two days ago, My 11 year old daughter, was feeling really depressed, school was tough, and it has been now 5 years since, her mum passed away from the childbirth of our second daughter, it was raining, she came back soaked, her clothes were wet. She came into the living room and I put a clotheshorse out and I was going leave to give her privacy but she asked me to stay. So I stayed with her and gave her warm towels and gave her bubble bath, she again asked me to stay again and ask me to wash her hair. I did that too. But now looking back I feel bad, she's a teenage girl now, and developing, I should give her privacy, I should have said no but now I feel like a terrible father.    

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Topic starter Posted : 04/04/2023 10:41 pm
(@warhammer)
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Hi she’s 11 and missing her mom, the things you have described are things a mom would probably do without thinking about it, but I can see why you may be concerned. My son is 10 I’ve started to tell him to go to his bedroom to change clothes, close bathroom door when he is in shower or bath. You could make her bath, then pull door to saying I’m going to give you some privacy, when you get out I will dry your hair for you and we can watch Tv or read a book. She is still young so just needs some guidance. Does she have any women in her life who may be able to take her for some girl time, might help. 
also just ask her if she is ok, does she want to talk about anything. Must be hard on you as well.

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Posted : 06/04/2023 8:39 pm
(@warhammer)
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Hi she’s 11 and missing her mom, the things you have described are things a mom would probably do without thinking about it, but I can see why you may be concerned. My son is 10 I’ve started to tell him to go to his bedroom to change clothes, close bathroom door when he is in shower or bath. You could make her bath, then pull door to saying I’m going to give you some privacy, when you get out I will dry your hair for you and we can watch Tv or read a book. She is still young so just needs some guidance. Does she have any women in her life who may be able to take her for some girl time, might help. 
also just ask her if she is ok, does she want to talk about anything. Must be hard on you as well.

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Posted : 06/04/2023 8:39 pm
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