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I'm new here.. My story..
To be told your children do not want to speak with you on Fathers Day can be one of the hardest things in life to accept...
My Children are 5 and 2. A little over 12mnths ago myself, my wife, my mother-in-law, and our two beautiful little girls relocated from England to the Highlands of Scotland.
My wife had cancer. This was a new start. We both worked, We rented a house we all shared. We all appeared happy. Less than 6mnths after our move and my wife told me she had bought a house. Two months after that, at Christmas my wife filed for divorce.
Accused of being depressed (Not true) and taken away by Police officers to hospital for testing my wife was then granted full custody of the children and moved into her new home. Shared moneys squirelled over the course of the paid for this. Accused of an Act of Breach of the Peace I am still to this day on bail. No money, no home no legal rights to my own children I returned to England to live with greatest parents I know.
So calculated, so easy to achieve. Not allowed to even send a package or letter to my children for fear of being accused of harassment or abuse.
This is the Twenty First Century and yet what rights do we as males have.? Every day spent with those children... cooking, cleaning, caring.... taken away through a series of false accusations and apocryphyll tales.
What can we do, where do we turn???
Somebody, somewhere has to fight. Fight for the rights of fathers in the 21st Century. If we dont, then society will be for the worse forevermore...
Sorry to hear this, on today of all days. It might be worth speaking to the Scottish Children's legal centre - www.sclc.org.uk - for some free advice to see what can be done about getting some form of contact back with your children.
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear you've had such a rough ride, it doesn't seem possible that just on the say so of one person the police can take such drastic action and drag you off to hospital....that's not to say I doubt what you say.
Thank goodness you have the support of your parents.
As she has filed for divorce, the matter of the property she bought whilst you were still together should form part of the settlement, but it would be advisable to seek proper legal advice about this.
As far as the children are concerned you do have rights and the fact is that even though you're on bail, you haven't as yet been charged. As actd has advised it would be a good idea to speak to the Scottish Childrens Legal Centre and get some advice on Scottish family law as it does differ from here in England.
As the children are resident in Scotland any court action that you embark on will have to be there in Scotland. Mediation isn't a requirement before court action in Scotland as it is here, if you decide to go ahead.
You can try and contact the police where you were bailed and get them to make a decision about whether they are charging yo or not...as it's been this long it's my feeling that no further action might be the case here....just my opinion. You do need to get this resolved, it's far better to enter into court proceedings without something like this pending.
I do understand your despair, we hear many sad stories here on the forum but on the flip side we also have much success. At 5 and 2 your children are far too young to make any kind of informed decision, it won't be them saying that they don't want to speak to you, I'm quite sure they are missing you too. So it's time to get back on track and find your way back to them, it can be done, you may need patience and there will be hoops to jump through, but it can be done. It is their right to have both parents in their lives.
It might be helpful to speak to the FNF branch organiser in Scotland, they will be able to give you some indirect support and will also know what action you need to take. Here's alink to the FNF website, the contact numbers for the branches in Scotland can be found at the bottom of the page.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
All the best
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